I'm a Mom...

Far from being perfect...

A work in progress...

But coping and trying harder to become one.

Happy Mother's Day to everyone!

My Lola

My only Mother

My sisters

My sisters-in-law

My aunties

My cousins

My Mom nieces

My Ninangs

My female Mom colleagues

My female Mom teachers

My female Mom church mates

My female Mom friends

My female Mom acquaintances

My female Mom students

My female Mom neighbors

Even to InaTays

and all the mother women reading this! 

The world would be a whole lot different without us! 

You can't even imagine it 😉

    I can't stand looking at the news of a pile of bodies being cremated or burned in India and the number is increasing every day. Indeed, the new strain of Covid 19 is worst than before. Also, in our nearby town, a priest was infected but been to a congregational meeting thus infecting others, as of now, that priest died after battling Covid 19 in the ICU then one of those who got infected through him died as well.

    A good friend of mine was grieving as well after losing his only son to Covid just recently. Then some of my churchmates who went to the same company and the same office were quarantined because one of their colleagues got infected. That is how alarming Covid is right now. The rate was already more or less 2% of the total world population. We could only expect that it will increase with the regular establishment operation. Most people are still too relax to consider the real score about COVID, some are even hesitant to get the vaccine because they do not trust it.

    

    People are slowly forgetting the essence of life by living carelessly. Or maybe they are just trying to make the most out of their life. However, COVID is contagious. We must not forget the fact that not all people have the same perception about life. If one happened to live their life in "come what may" status and won't mind if they will get an infection or not- how about those people whom they will possibly get infected with? Indeed, it is disheartening to see somebody grieving because of the untimely death of a dearly beloved.

    Let us not allow ourselves to be the cause of the desperation of others. Let us be mindful and extra careful.

    Let us be responsible!

#COVIDisReal

I posted this yesterday on my FB Wall:

Yes, we just celebrated our 10th year Wedding Anniversary yesterday. I am very vocal when it comes to my feelings and opinion. I speak what's on my mind and what I wrote on my wall is absolutely true! If I have to assess our marriage, it is very far from perfect. That reality versus expectation scheme did really happen to me. I expected a lot from my husband when we are still not married but things didn't go as I thought. However, that was just from an idealistic persona of me. I do love him and it takes authentic patience to accept the whole of him. But he is not bad, he just doesn't meet my expectations. 

On the other note, I realized as well, am I perfect for him? Did I also meet his expectations of me? If we based our relationship on each other's expectations then maybe, just maybe, 10 years is too long for both of us. The truth is, we're both imperfect. Our zodiac even tells us that our compatibility is up to 15% only. Funny, but the good thing is that we don't rely on the zodiac or any astrological predictions. we based our marriage relationship on God's will on His perfect plan for both of us. We are like two individuals with different views in life, but somehow we complement each other. He is actually the exact opposite of me. But Science proves that opposite poles attract each other. But seriously, we both believe that God destined us for each other.

Anyway, thanks for cheering with us to forever!

    

Everyday is a miracle, I should say. With the increasing cases of COVID 19 infection in our locality, life becomes uncertain that is why I am thankful to God for the day that me and my family is spared from it. My heart goes to those who were in the hospitals struggling to fight the virus as well as for their families. My Mom and brother in-law who are currently residing in Iowa, USA were once infected but I'm thankful to God that there is no complication. 

The only way to prevent ourselves from infection is by taking good care of ourselves and following the protocols mandated by our government agencies. For a working Mom like me, it is really very difficult to maintain social distancing though I'm on mask most of the time. Past few weeks ago my asthma was triggered thus I'm into hard cough, runny nose and headache for more than a week, good thing I can still smell and taste. But during that time I was totally panicking, fearing that I I might have the virus and I'm with my kids and family. I've reassured myself by conditioning my mind that it was just my asthma hitting me again. And yes, it really was coz by now I'm already okay.

Panicking is a normal reaction but our instinct must be stronger than our emotion.

Living in uncertainties? Trust God then your instinct.

Happy Sunday!

Family is life, having both parents upon growing up is life!

Well, I honestly admired all husbands who stand by their wives through thick and thin. And a hand salute to all the wives who remain faithful to their husbands amidst adversaries that their family life has encountered.

The common reason why family falls apart or why marriages have shattered is because of infidelity. Me, being a product of a broken family knows how it feels to have a shattered home. I know how it felt to grow up without a father, and believe me it's not really easy.

The sad thing about having a broken family is that not all kids have the same way of coping with the situation. Not all kids have the courage to accept the fact positively. There are those who became lost and became a problem themselves. I have seen a lot of young ones slowly ruining their lives believing that their life is already trash after all and there is no future waiting for them. As a teacher, it becomes a burden to me. I wish I could explain to them that there is still a brighter future waiting for them if they won't allow their situation to overwhelm them. However, I cannot just control their actions as well as their perspective in life. There are those who tried to but still fail because they have less or no parental support. My heart truly bleeds for them.

I wish to convey this message to my fellow parents out there, especially to those mothers like me. If you think your marriage is in doom, and no means left to aid the situation and you thought of ending the relationship- please make sure that you don't abandon your responsibility as a mother. Do not neglect your duty as a parent. Explain to your children why there is a need to end the relationship because even the kids can feel the toxicity and eventually will understand your decision. But never ever abandon them for another man to be with, that is totally a horrible decision. 

Our situations may vary but we could come up with the same solution- holding on to our role as a parent. Our children don't necessarily have to become a casualty of our failed marriages, they should not suffer because we made the bad decision. Let's not add insult to injury. Let us be sensible enough no matter what.

Bottom line, let our conscience, our common sense, and our faith in God be our ultimate guide in rearing our children.

The Inter-Agency Task Force (IATF) never failed to remind us about the protocols that we must all follow in order to minimize the cases of COVID 19 infections. Social distancing, wearing of mask and face shield should be strictly followed. However, with the normal operation of malls and other establishments right now, keeping the social distancing protocol become a real challenge, much more with the "Community Pantry" that became trending nowadays.

Personally, I have nothing against Community Pantry because it revives the Bayanihan Spirit of every Filipino. However, if the crowd cannot be controlled anymore, that is where the problem might start. But with proper coordination of the organizer, maybe the situation can be regulated.

It just need a little understanding and greater discipline among the benificiaries.