Indeed it's very true that you'll only get to know your partner when you'll be living on the same roof and as time goes by of living together.

It can't be denied that there's no such thing as perfect relationship among married couples. There will always be flaws, shortcomings, misunderstanding and even relationship gap. However, there might be no perfect relationship, but there are still many couples who remain in the commitment til their last breath. How did it happen? How do they make it work?

ACCEPTANCE.

Yes, indeed. Acceptance is the key in order to have a highly effective marriage. According to the book written by Nancy Van Pelt, "an important prerequisite to accepting your partner at face value is the ability to accept yourself just as you are" She said that self-worth is an honest appraisal of oneself. That is accepting your limitations that you've been unable to change and the ability to move ahead after failing many times. Through self-acceptance, it enables you to pay attention to others as well and become tolerant of the weaknesses of others as you are of your own.

Personally, before I got married to my husband,  I have so many expectations that only my mind could imagine because as we build our own family, I have so many frustrations because of all those unmet expectations. But what can I do? So, instead of resenting, nagging, and blaming him (which I actually did before), I accepted him and condition my mind that it's him and I can't do anything about it. My full acceptance of his total being actually resulted to positive result because by the time I stopped nagging him, he's now more open and more easy to deal with especially in rearing our three children. 

Indeed, acceptance is the key. If you find it so difficult to do, just reconsider that you have different backgrounds, different upbringing. Reconsider as well that you have different beliefs and principles in life. By the time you marry him, you're not only marrying the person in flesh, you are also bound to commit down to his soul.

Longing for a lifetime commitment?

Accept and meet halfway.

One year ago, I posted this note on my FB account during the 29th Birthday of my ex-boyfriend (now my ever loving husband) Junie... As I read this note again, I was really so happy on how God really work things out in His perfect time for our relationship to grow and eventually bind us together us ONE...

Let me share again to you the said NOTE:

I am asking myself these questions for so many times... Why do I love him despite all those negative things I heard about him... Why does my heart beats for him? I have been interrogated by my heart and my mind because even them cannot get the right answer. Corny? Hmmm... I really do not care how will you take it but I am just trying to express how I truly felt about him. We do not have that perfect relationship, what we have is pure love and contentment with each other. We are both positive that God brought us together for a reason. Whatever is that reason, I am glad and will always be. I grew up with the belief that men were born to frustrate women (that's the impression that my father left in my heart). I have so many frustrations, I have so many doubts, I have so many questions- but I realized that these are the proofs that my heart really beats for him..Why? because without those feelings, I am completely unmindful of this relationship, but I'm not. I tried to be numb but I just cannot deny it nor I can deceive myself... Corny again? but that is just the truth.

My doubts and confusions put him to the tests- but he survived. I tried to give up for countless times but he remained. I pushed him away but he never let go. I cannot explain how God made me feel this way.Why am I sharing all these feelings? Because it matters...One thing is certain... I love this man and I am very much willing to spend the rest of my life with him if God willing. ♥♥♥

That certain things I have mentioned remains unshaken... in fact, by the will of God- we made it... We both took the vow to spend our lives together for the rest of our lives on April 28, 2011.

And now, as he turned another year of his God-given life, he will be facing another chapter of his life, not only as the loving husband to me but as a doting father to our baby soon...

To you my dear Huggybear, forever and ever will be my love for you. I really thank God for having you... I once said before that you are the most misunderstood man I've ever known, but allow me to take that words back. Because the truth reveals that the man I saw in you before was not the man I thought you were... You completely changed for the better, and I really love that. People may soon be able to see what I saw in you today, I really do pray. What matters most now to me is that I am so happy to have you. All my doubts and confusions were completely vanished. I am so thankful to God on how much you cared and loved me today and I know it will carry on for a lifetime...

To you my Huggy, I am so proud to say that I never regret the day I said I DO. I love you sooooooooooooo much!

I blessed the day you were born... Because on that day, God started to write our love story.

And the reason is LOVE...