My Kind of Leadership

It is the responsibility of the parents to bring and implement discipline at home. But this is only achievable if there is great command of leadership among the heads of the family, usually the father.

Rearing a child is not that easy. Like a joke that I’ve heard once, teaching a child is like a walk in the park- only that it is in the Jurassic Park. But kidding aside, one of the reasons why there are some children who are a problem in the society is that they never find real leadership at home.

I grew up in a broken family and a very strict mother. I can say that my Mom has that greater command of leadership because she made us all obey to almost everything that she told us to do out of fear. It is only when I became a mother myself that I fully understood her way of “leadership”. She just wanted us to be more disciplined especially in our studies. It was her ultimate dream that we will earn a degree.

Right now, as a mother of two (and soon, three) it is also my ultimate dream to see my children realized their dreams with flying colors. As a submissive wife to my husband, it is also my dream to have a lifetime relationship with him. My husband is the youngest on his family. But then he has exceptional skills in dealing with his other six (6) siblings because every time his family needs to make a greater decision, his siblings relied on him. That is why he is also our leader at home especially in the area of decision making.

Whenever my little boy insists on something, or my little girl is having her tantrums, it is my role to pacify them otherwise, they will be facing the wall at their father’s command. There are also cases that I am their disciplinarian and their father is the rescuer. I can say that we are doing perfectly fine in injecting discipline to our children. It just need cooperation between me and my husband. I am also teaching my children to pay greater respect and obedience to their father being the head of the family. They may not yet understand it fully, but the way they respond to our style in disciplining them is somehow promising enough that these kids will grow up being aware of what is good from bad and the other way around.

As parents for four years, we know that we still have a lot of things to learn in rearing our children. It is not that easy but we are determined enough to guide them to choose the right path always. It would be a great achievement for us someday seeing them living their dreams. And it can only be realized if right from their formative years, they were already taught of the right discipline, quite strict but with care.